I Need Tips on How to Make Friends on Campus

First, it is wonderful that you took the time to make arrangements for your allergy! Bravo! This is a difficult situation in that the other kids had to work for their housing; however, I believe that they will have no real reason to resent you as long as you don’t give them one. Be open and friendly with everyone and show them that you recognize their efforts to get this housing. Give them time as well. If they are all older than you are, they are probably not as eager to make friends as you may be. Seek out new friends through your classes and interests. Typically, it is the freshmen who are eager to make friends, so look to your classmates for relationships. Let the people in your dorm slowly come to realize that you are a good person who is living with a demanding allergy.

Another thing to consider is that there should be a Resident Assistant (RA) on your floor or in your dorm. RAs are there to assist the people in the dorm and help them with any problems they may have. Find out who your RA is and discuss your situation with her. Not only should she be willing to listen and help, but she may be able to speak with some of the other residents about your situation.

Also, consider using the allergy itself to gain people’s friendship. It is amazing the number of people who are not familiar with food allergies, and you would be surprised how interested people are to hear firsthand experiences. Most people think that having allergies means your nose runs and your eyes get watery a few times a year. Explain to them what actually happens when you eat the food to which you are allergic. People with food allergies typically have some great and appalling stories to share! In the end, if the people in your dorm still resist your friendship, then perhaps they are not the type of people that you would want for friends.